Are you looking for things to say to get someone to stop smoking?
If you are looking for things to say to get someone to stop smoking then you're going to have a hard time.
Let me explain, no matter how much you love someone and they love you, trying to get someone to stop smoking will probably cause an argument. Smoking is a way of life for smokers, they enjoy it, it's a part of practically everything they do.
From the minute they wake up, to the minute they go to sleep - often a day will start and end with a cigarette. Smokers often don't know or can't remember when things were different. And if you try to get them to change this, you're probably going to be on the receiving end of a cold shoulder!
Most people don't like change, especially from something they like. And all smokers, even the ones that want to stop smoking, enjoy some of their cigarettes. Maybe it's the one after sex, maybe it's the cigarette they have with their coffee or maybe they love finishing a meal and relaxing with a cigarette.
So if you're trying to find things to say to get someone to stop smoking you're only going to succeed in annoying them!
Telling them that they are going to die or that they are aging at three times the rate than the rest of us or that their clothes smell terrible will get both of you nowhere. And it might even work against you, and make them smoke more. Either just to annoy you or because hearing all these things stresses them out.
I know this from personal experience. I once tried to help an ex-girlfriend stop smoking (when I was learning about helping others to stop smoking) and it failed miserably, in fact we almost broke up because of it!
So what can you do? A couple of things really. Firstly find out if they want to stop, and if so let them know that you are willing to help. But don't push them or bring it up constantly, they'll get annoyed, trust me!
Secondly, help them find a new focus in life. I know many ex-smokers who do nothing but fantasize about having 'just one cigarette.' This is not healthy, and they are miserable for it! So help them find a way to make sure that when they stop smoking they really, really enjoy life for making this positive chage.
And with all the money they are saving, around about $2,000 a year for a pack a day smoker, they can invest in a new car, a new expensive holiday or vacation or two, some new clothes and a make over or a new TV. Whever it is help them to see that their life is better once they stop smoking.
So if you if you really want to know what kinds of things to say to get someone to stop smoking, you should put yourself in their shoes - if someone wanted you to give up something you really enjoy and just can't stop doing, how would you feel and what would it take to get you to stop?
Let me explain, no matter how much you love someone and they love you, trying to get someone to stop smoking will probably cause an argument. Smoking is a way of life for smokers, they enjoy it, it's a part of practically everything they do.
From the minute they wake up, to the minute they go to sleep - often a day will start and end with a cigarette. Smokers often don't know or can't remember when things were different. And if you try to get them to change this, you're probably going to be on the receiving end of a cold shoulder!
Most people don't like change, especially from something they like. And all smokers, even the ones that want to stop smoking, enjoy some of their cigarettes. Maybe it's the one after sex, maybe it's the cigarette they have with their coffee or maybe they love finishing a meal and relaxing with a cigarette.
So if you're trying to find things to say to get someone to stop smoking you're only going to succeed in annoying them!
Telling them that they are going to die or that they are aging at three times the rate than the rest of us or that their clothes smell terrible will get both of you nowhere. And it might even work against you, and make them smoke more. Either just to annoy you or because hearing all these things stresses them out.
I know this from personal experience. I once tried to help an ex-girlfriend stop smoking (when I was learning about helping others to stop smoking) and it failed miserably, in fact we almost broke up because of it!
So what can you do? A couple of things really. Firstly find out if they want to stop, and if so let them know that you are willing to help. But don't push them or bring it up constantly, they'll get annoyed, trust me!
Secondly, help them find a new focus in life. I know many ex-smokers who do nothing but fantasize about having 'just one cigarette.' This is not healthy, and they are miserable for it! So help them find a way to make sure that when they stop smoking they really, really enjoy life for making this positive chage.
And with all the money they are saving, around about $2,000 a year for a pack a day smoker, they can invest in a new car, a new expensive holiday or vacation or two, some new clothes and a make over or a new TV. Whever it is help them to see that their life is better once they stop smoking.
So if you if you really want to know what kinds of things to say to get someone to stop smoking, you should put yourself in their shoes - if someone wanted you to give up something you really enjoy and just can't stop doing, how would you feel and what would it take to get you to stop?
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