How do you motivate yourself?
I know lots of smokers who try to motivate themselves by saying things like - I'm going toput five notes into a tin every day once I stop smoking or when I stop smoking my skin will be so much better and when i stop smoking I'm going to be able to taste food fully once again.
Then they gey bogged down with anxiety and panic in the days leading up to their chosen stop smoking date. And they begin to question wether or not they can do it and start thinking about how hard it was last time or it will be.
And soon they've either given up on stopping smoking because they are 'too stressed / it's not a good time' or they begin smoking again! Does any of this look or sound familiar?!
A major problem with stopping smoking and motivation is that often smokers don't take the time to stop and plan and really, really motivate themselves. It's good saying you're going to put five notes into a tin every day but then what?
You should plan to give yourself rewards, and real rewards you can look forward to feeling seeing and experienceing. So you should start by plannin on giving yourself a reward at the end of every day you go free from cigarettes.
Make it something you don't usually get to do or have. Then plan on a weekly reward and a monthly reward. Maybe you could plan on a weekend away, a trip a shopping spree or a luxurious spa treatment. Anything, anything at all that you really, really want and can now afford because you have all that extra money!
Motivating yourself is key, it's not everything and cannot help you on its own but changing your view point when you stop smoking will go a long way. When you strongly motivate yourself you do two things.
Firstly, you stop thinking, focusing and concentrating on all the things you are going to miss and have to do without when you stop smoking.
And secondly, you change the way you look at your life - you're now looking forward to the things you are going to get rather than the things you are leaving behind! The best part of this is that your mind is now focusing away from cigarettes and the things you got from them.
The mind is a very complex thing, but also works in a vey simple manner. It will seek out and help you to get whatever you focus on. So if you focus on how much you miss cigarettes
and how you used to love them, your mind will make you go back to them.
But if you focus on all the good things and rewards you are geeting now that you are free from them, your mind will be happy and will seek those things!
If you wake up thinking 'oh this is a miserable day, I've got a meeting with my boss, the weather is dreadful and I just don't care anymore' then you will have a terrible day!
But if you wake up thinking 'I don't care about the weather, it's actually refreshing to have all this rain ( or something similar ;) ) and I'm going to resolve my problems with my boss' then your day will go completely differently!
That's how the mind works! It will go after whatever you tell it to! So focus on the good things you eill get and spend a lot of time planning on the things you will get when you stop smoking. Soon you will see that it is nowehere near as hard a you thought!
Then they gey bogged down with anxiety and panic in the days leading up to their chosen stop smoking date. And they begin to question wether or not they can do it and start thinking about how hard it was last time or it will be.
And soon they've either given up on stopping smoking because they are 'too stressed / it's not a good time' or they begin smoking again! Does any of this look or sound familiar?!
A major problem with stopping smoking and motivation is that often smokers don't take the time to stop and plan and really, really motivate themselves. It's good saying you're going to put five notes into a tin every day but then what?
You should plan to give yourself rewards, and real rewards you can look forward to feeling seeing and experienceing. So you should start by plannin on giving yourself a reward at the end of every day you go free from cigarettes.
Make it something you don't usually get to do or have. Then plan on a weekly reward and a monthly reward. Maybe you could plan on a weekend away, a trip a shopping spree or a luxurious spa treatment. Anything, anything at all that you really, really want and can now afford because you have all that extra money!
Motivating yourself is key, it's not everything and cannot help you on its own but changing your view point when you stop smoking will go a long way. When you strongly motivate yourself you do two things.
Firstly, you stop thinking, focusing and concentrating on all the things you are going to miss and have to do without when you stop smoking.
And secondly, you change the way you look at your life - you're now looking forward to the things you are going to get rather than the things you are leaving behind! The best part of this is that your mind is now focusing away from cigarettes and the things you got from them.
The mind is a very complex thing, but also works in a vey simple manner. It will seek out and help you to get whatever you focus on. So if you focus on how much you miss cigarettes
and how you used to love them, your mind will make you go back to them.
But if you focus on all the good things and rewards you are geeting now that you are free from them, your mind will be happy and will seek those things!
If you wake up thinking 'oh this is a miserable day, I've got a meeting with my boss, the weather is dreadful and I just don't care anymore' then you will have a terrible day!
But if you wake up thinking 'I don't care about the weather, it's actually refreshing to have all this rain ( or something similar ;) ) and I'm going to resolve my problems with my boss' then your day will go completely differently!
That's how the mind works! It will go after whatever you tell it to! So focus on the good things you eill get and spend a lot of time planning on the things you will get when you stop smoking. Soon you will see that it is nowehere near as hard a you thought!
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